The whole issue of Marriage Equality is eating away at me this week. I really don’t agree with many people’s agenda to redefine what marriage is. After reading articles from both sides I feel like I’ve given fair consideration to both sides. Ultimately though with Scripture as my guide I cannot support people in favor of gay marriage. That doesn’t mean that I hate gays, it doesn’t mean that I am homophobic, and it doesn’t make me a better person than those who have different opinions than me.
Yesterday I retweeted “Evangelicals and the Supreme Court Decision on Same Sex Marriage” by Dr. Paul Louis Metzger on Patheos. Dr. Metzger is one of my professors and someone that I highly respect. One of the reasons I find him to be a good example of a spiritual and theological teacher to me is that he battles with living in the tension of conservative, Bible-based conclusions to represent Trinitarian theology correctly, and how to meaningfully engage issues of our post-modern, post-Christian, and multi-faith pluralistic culture. I have been a part of New Wine, New Wineskins where these issues are fleshed out and people are respected. Here is a comment that I posted in response to his recent article:
I agree with this statement:
“One of the fears I have as Evangelicals address the issue of the legalization of gay marriage is that we might win a battle on shooting down gay marriage and lose a war of building caring relationships with gay people. Will Evangelicals influence the morality of our culture on marriage most by enforcing its overarching view on marriage on others or by embodying its ethic of marriage and family in a way that demonstrates loyal love and self-sacrifice?”
Let me say this: I do not affirm or approve of homosexuality or gay marriage. What I do think is that regardless of what the state says we have a responsibility to hold our convictions, preach the gospel, and allow the Holy Spirit to do the work of convicting people of sin and to follow or reject Christ. People who are sinners and sin are merely filling their job description…so it shouldn’t be a surprise to us that they want to justify themselves in any court- God’s or the U.S. Supreme Court!
There are really no winners in this issue. If conservative Christians “win” our efforts to have relationships with the LGBT community will be stunted and tarnished, but if “those people” win then we will continue to hear the rhetoric that we will lose our religious freedom due to gay marriage. Can we find a way to lovingly oppose gay marriage, while still seeking to be exempt from performing gay marriage if it becomes a nationally legal thing? I also think if we’re going to be anti-gay marriage that we need to be pro-marriage in our churches. That means that we need to provide every opportunity to help couples strengthen their marriage and not opt out for divorce. Jesus came to redeem and reconcile people. As Christians we should seek to be a part of redeeming and reconciling the LGBT community to the gospel, not tearing them apart. We should seek to redeeming and reconciling broken families and marriages, and have a united stand that says that divorce is an affront to God. Repentance and relationship with God and others is what we need to call to. That is my opinion…sorry it took me so much space to respond!
I really do pray our nation will be revived and come to Christ because he alone can change us to become more conformed to God’s will that is pleasing, perfect, and acceptable. I also pray that whatever the results of these Supreme Court cases that we will remember that God makes marriage sacred and meaningful…not government legislation. We must stand for truth, but be willing to give up all that we have because the Gospel is worth it.
Here are some articles that I read: